Expectation #1: You’ll walk around naked. All the time, every time.
The only time you get to be topless is when you’re at home or the changing rooms…Where random guys always come up to you asking what diet you’re on, or the supplements you take.
Expectation #2: Getting shredded will increase your happiness
Your levels of happiness spike, but return back to baseline. (Known as the Hedonic Treadmill in psychology)
Everyone comes wired with a predetermined level of happiness (1). And though certain events will cause a spike in these levels, they eventually return back to baseline. Of course, this isn’t to say you can’t increase your baseline levels of happiness, but the amount depends on the circumstance. For example, if you’re overweight and have health conditions, losing body fat and improving your health will improve your baseline level of happiness. But, someone who went from 12% bodyfat to 8% bodyfat wouldn’t experience a drastic change.
Expectation #3: You’ll get ALL the women
Women don’t care too much.
While Men are stimulated by the visual, Women tend to be stimulated by status. And this makes sense: Women want a guy who can look after them, and while back in the day this meant picking the guy who was the most powerful; these days, seeing that we aren’t at risk of being mauled by a wild Tiger, strength doesn’t mean much as stability – someone who can provide food, shelter, and financial support, etc.
Simply: if you suck with women before you lose fat, chances are you’re going to suck even after losing the fat. It’s something you have to work on that is separate from fat loss.
NB – All things being equal, a guy in shape will do infinitely better. But, things are seldom ‘equal’, so…yeah, sorry about that.
Expectation #4: You’ll look amazing on your first try
The first time you diet down you’re probably going to be lacking a lot of muscle mass. It’s going to take you a few cycles of gaining muscle and losing fat to get the body you want.
Expectation #5: Fat loss is linear
Hmmm, It’s more like this.
- “Stumbling on Happiness” by Dan Gilbert.
Get the best fitness emails on the internet.
I send out weekly emails to over 14k people on training, nutrition, mindset, and everything in between to help you with your goals. These aren't published anywhere else, and my subscribers tell me they're the best fitness emails on the internet.Get my emails